Friedrich Sauerländer

Impotence

A guide to what is possible

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Inhaltsverzeichnis

Titel

Foreword

Definition

Myths and fairy tales

Communication is important!

To activate your sexual center

Strengthening of the immune system

Work on your fitness!

Relax!

Watch your diet!

Sex and partnership

Digression: Dealing with the problem in the partnership

Questionnaire

Viagra, acupuncture, massage, aphrodisiac

Aphrodisiacs

Other means - other ways?

Frequently asked questions

Conclusion

Impressum neobooks

Foreword

The number of people suffering from impotence can hardly be given, because many have a big problem to admit this to themselves and act accordingly: The man feels like a failure, suffers from inferiority complexes and has great inhibitions about opening up to others (his partner, a doctor and even his best friend). But he is not the only one affected: The partner also suffers from this problem, she is involved, and it is not seldom she who finally urges the man to do something.

Because impotence is by no means a problem that cannot be solved - quite the contrary: in the vast majority of cases there is a way to solve this problem! Health, psyche and partnership play the decisive roles that need to be addressed in order to solve the problem. This book discusses these three points in detail, all of which are interrelated.

Definition

Impotence (the so-called erectile dysfunction) comes from the Latin and means as much as not being able to, in this context: not being able to perform sexual intercourse. But only in the following sense: the ability to have an erection and to perform sexual intercourse is impaired, a physical function is disturbed. This does not mean a short-term disturbance, but a disturbance over a longer period of time.

A distinction is made between two forms of impotence: Impotentia coeundi refers to what is generally understood by impotence, namely the inability to achieve or maintain an erection in order to perform intercourse. There is also the impotentia generandi, i.e. the inability to conceive a child. Ejaculation does occur, but the quantity or quality of the semen is not sufficient.

Colloquially, impotence usually refers to erectile dysfunction. Not every form of erectile dysfunction must be equated with impotence. The time factor is decisive here. A chronic disease and thus a real impotence is considered to be a six-month continuous existence of the disorder.

Myths and fairy tales

There are some myths that can have a negative influence on one's own sexuality. They never die out completely, but continue to propagate from generation to generation - however wrong they may be!

In the following some important ones are listed.

A real man always wants and can

Masculinity is the same as potency - many men think so! If "it" doesn't work then they have a considerable problem, because a potency disorder makes a man a wimp! If you believe in this myth, it's not surprising that you withdraw with erectile dysfunction and do not want to open up to your partner or even a doctor.

Only a large penis can really satisfy your partner

The fact is: It's not the size of the penis that matters, it's what you do with it! Moreover: many women don't care about penis size. Empathy, tenderness and last but not least fantasy in sexuality are far more important to them!

Only when both partners reach their climax at the same time, everything is fine

Simultaneous orgasm is the ultimate goal for many men. However, it is important to remember that it requires a lot of concentration, which does not necessarily promote pleasure. It is well known that the needs during sex are different, and it is important to know the wishes and needs of your partner and to respond to them.

Only intercourse is real sex

There are so many varieties of sexuality! Take advantage of them and do not always limit yourself exclusively to sexual intercourse. After all, you can come to orgasm without it! There are no limits to your imagination. (Unless the wishes and needs of the partner are violated).

Sex is no longer for older people

Enjoying and experiencing sexuality is by no means tied to age. There are many older and old people who still have sex! And this does not in the least violate any social norms.

Impotence cannot be prevented in old age

Potency usually decreases with age, but there are still many men who were very potent until old age. Potency disorders can therefore also be treated in this phase of life! Counselling, diagnostics and treatment are all services provided by the statutory health insurance companies, only the medication has to be paid for by the patient.

What influences your potency?

There are numerous factors that influence potency. These are listed below.

Psyche

The psyche is primarily responsible for the man's ability to realize his sexual potential. If the psyche is disturbed, this often has an effect on his sexual life and his potency. Stress and sexual performance are related.

For example, occupational stress can have an effect on one's own sexuality. Of course, there is also sexual stress: fear of failure ("This time it has to work!") or the unconditional will to achieve maximum physical performance. Insecurity, lack of self-confidence, fears - all these trigger emotional pressure and lead to physical tension.

Therapeutic help is recommended for men who suffer from considerable permanent psychological disorders. This means that if you have the feeling that your own problems lie very deep and cannot be solved easily and by your own efforts, it is advisable to seek medical help instead of always carrying these problems around with you.

Often, however, relaxation exercises can help to relieve psychological and physical tension. There are also various rules of conduct that contribute to a more fulfilled sexuality and potency, such as expressing wishes and needs, being responsive to your partner or even rejecting sexual desires.

Think about it:

Relaxation and mental balance is the first requirement for sexual potency!

Health

Physical health is one of the basic prerequisites for sexual potency. With increasing age, physical fitness diminishes; this is accompanied by a reduction in potency. Appropriate training can counteract both! However, before doing the exercises and methods mentioned in this book, it is strongly recommended to have a checkup by a doctor (urologist, cardiologist).

Regular check-ups are of course just as important.

Take the time to listen to your body, notice complaints and, above all, take them seriously, avoid medication as far as possible and cure the physical complaints. Of course, medication also has an influence on sexual energy!

Especially arteriosclerosis (calcification of the blood vessels) has a considerable effect on sexual potency, because the walls of the vessels in the pelvic and penile arteries also calcify. This has various causes and can be caused by overweight, smoking, high blood pressure, high blood fat and cholesterol levels and diabetes (diabetes).

Partnership

Your potency is to a considerable extent dependent on your partner. The sexual stimulus is not only based on visual stimuli, but also on appearance, smell and language.

The sexual experience is also very important: inexperience (not only that of your partner, but also your own) can of course have a negative effect on your potency. Communication is especially important: Don't make a secret of your sexual desires (both), talk openly about what you want and what you don't like.

A sensitive and empathetic partner is extremely important for a harmonious sexuality and for overcoming possible potency problems. A partner who knows how to deal with you when there are small phases of weakness, who (just like you) respects and respects your sexual desires, strengths and weaknesses.

The sexual excitability of your partner is of course also important. A well-functioning communication and responding to the respective sexual desires (and dislikes) can also positively influence the potency of your partner (and thus ultimately your own). Sex is a togetherness. You have to harmonize with each other if you want to lead a happy sex life with your partner in the long run.

Communication is important!

Most of the time women are relieved when their husband opens up to them. Because often she has already pondered whether her partner no longer finds her attractive enough or whether there is another woman. It is rather the exception that a woman reacts negatively - usually she is even happy about the trust of her partner! Moreover, such a conversation leads to a special intimacy between the partners. And this is particularly important for the man, because his self-esteem suffers if the erection fails to materialise.

And: If problems are expressed, they appear to be more solvable immediately. Because something can be done about erectile dysfunction.

Sometimes the solution is also obvious: Sex has become boring because it always follows the same pattern. Expressing secret desires and trying out new ways of doing things can make your love life more interesting and exciting again!

What can you do?

There are several ways and means to help potency to take off. These are listed below.

Reduce the risk factors!

Of course: Smoking endangers health. It damages the blood vessels and increases the risk of lung cancer. And: It can have a negative influence on sexual potency, because it also affects the blood circulation in the penis.

By refraining from smoking, you have taken an important step towards restoring your erectile function.

Alcohol in small quantities is not dangerous, in fact it even has a vascular protective effect and can also reduce the risk of a heart attack. However, high alcohol consumption is urgently advised against; it has an anaesthetic effect and reduces potency: the tissue in the liver is altered (cirrhosis of the liver, fatty liver), the hormone balance is affected, which in turn has an effect on sexual virility. Therefore: Reduce your alcohol consumption.

What are other risk factors besides smoking and alcohol consumption?

Stress: It is a pleasure killer par excellence. Try to avoid stress as best you can. Try to relax, yoga and other relaxation techniques can help.

Lack of sleep: Make sure that you get enough sleep. A tired body and a tired mind are poison for sexual activities. Nutrition: Make sure you eat a balanced diet. Sports: Do sports, keep fit.

Activate your hormones!

Strengthen your defences!

Massages stimulate