Highly Sensitive:

The Practical Manual For Dealing With High Sensitivity And Highly Sensitive People

(High Sensitivity Guide: Including Many Tips And Tricks For Private And Professional Everyday Life)

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What is high sensibility?

What does high sensitivity mean?

How does high sensitivity work?

The Gift

The advantages of high sensitivity

Self-reflection

Recognizing High Sensitivity

Special features of high sensitivity

High sensitivity - a new trend

Tired of impressions

High Sensitivity as High Giftedness

Wrong Therapies

High sensitivity and fears

Just stress or highly sensitive?

The biological side

Anxiety disorders

The Similarity of Stress, Anxiety and High Sensitivity

Dealing with one's own high sensitivity

Your own life

In the peace lies the strength

See high sensitivity as a gift

Dealing with other highly sensitive people

The normal respect

Negative feelings

Dealing with each other

High sensitivity in the partnership

Highly sensitive people are shy

Love as a burden

Self-confidence

The Sex

Communication

Dealing with a highly sensitive partner

Conflict situations

Energy management

Taking High Sensitivity Seriously

Communication means listening

Communication means exchanging information

Acceptance and patience

Dealing with high sensitivity at work

High sensitivity and its two sides

Highly sensitive integration

The working day

The colleagues

Dealing with highly sensitive children

Recognizing High Sensitivity in a Child

The Gift

A disease-causing environment

Taking the child seriously

The accompaniment

Tips for dealing with high sensitivity on a daily basis

Take your time

Avoid dealing with the wrong people

Avoid crowds

Play someone else

Aids

The right routine makes the difference

The place of life

The right job

Cut yourself off

Bottom line

Introduction

What is it that all people, each for themselves and all together, want? What wish do they have that always drives them? It's the desire to accept oneself. It is the desire to simply be at peace with oneself, to be satisfied with oneself, and to be able to suffer oneself.

Many people fight with themselves all their lives. They see themselves in a bad light, they have inferiority complexes and they even condemn themselves. This can affect everyone, and there are people for whom it is much more difficult to accept themselves. We're talking about the highly sensitive among us.

Highly sensitive people perceive everything much more strongly than others. That's why they suffer much more from rejection. But they experience the rejection from others, because they are not like them. The rejection is transmitted and in the end many highly sensitive people reject themselves.

But what many overlook is that high sensitivity, like so many other things, has two sides. That means it's as much a curse as a gift. What's the difference? Only what the affected person himself makes of it. That is why it is so important that you understand your unique position as a highly sensitive person and make the most of it for yourself. And there's a lot you can do with it.

However, not every reader of this book is directly affected by the subject of high sensitivity. There are also many indirectly affected people who have a highly sensitive person in their lives, a person who is important to them. This can be a friend, your own partner, your own child or a colleague at work.

Even for those not directly affected, the subject of high sensitivity is a double-edged sword. If you approach it correctly, undreamt-of possibilities open up, because then you have a special person with a special gift in your own environment. However, it has been tackled wrongly as a problem.

It's just a reality, just like life itself is. It always depends on how you deal with a thing and what you make of it. This is why it is so important to actually get to know and understand the topic, so that one can also see and make use of the many opportunities offered to a highly sensitive person.

Those who have made it, those who have dealt with and understood the subject of high sensitivity have taken a big step in the right direction. If you have now learned to use your gift, then it is time to acknowledge and accept yourself as the miracle that you are.

Anyone who, as an indirectly affected person, has managed to understand the subject and find the right way to deal with a highly sensitive friend, partner, child or colleague has a double chance of taking a big step. The first chance is for yourself. You can use the other person's gift. At the same time one can give thereby success experiences to the other humans. In addition, there is a sensitive approach and voilà, one has improved oneself and one's own life and rendered a great service to the highly gifted person who is so important to one. The latter can learn to respect himself, to accept himself, and simply to be proud of his own gift through good dealings and a sense of achievement.

This book combines three concerns at once. The first thing here is to impart the necessary knowledge on the subject of high sensitivity. This means that we look at what it actually stands for. In addition, we also provide an insight into the special features resulting from the high sensitivity for the person concerned and his environment.

Some highly sensitive people develop very special fears or their condition is confused with fears. Either way, it is important to understand the connection between fears and high sensitivity in order to keep them separate and learn how to deal with them properly.

Once the knowledge base has been laid, then it is a matter of the right handling. There are many facets in this area, so differentiation must be made here. This means that we look at how one, as a directly affected person, can deal with one's high sensitivity and make one's own life easier.

For those indirectly affected, there are various situations which we also illuminate individually. This is how we explain how to deal with a highly sensitive person in general. This refers predominantly to everyday situations such as those experienced with a friend or acquaintance.

After the general introduction we look at the special cases. How do you deal with a partner who is highly sensitive? Here special requirements are placed on the wife or husband of such a person and we want to take a closer look at these requirements.

After the partnership, it's all about the highly sensitive colleague. How does high sensitivity affect work and how do you deal with such a colleague? We look at this and above all see the advantages that the increased sensitivity brings with it.

In the next part, we will focus on the most complicated and at the same time most important area, dealing with a highly sensitive child. This topic requires a very special sensitivity and requires a lot of love and patience from the parents. Nevertheless, if you do everything right here as a parent, you can give the highly sensitive child an almost normal start in life.

The final part is made up of tips that make it easier to deal with the subject of high sensitivity on a daily basis. This is again about general tips for all situations in life, but they have a greater practical relevance.

We hope that this book will give people who are highly sensitive and those who interact with them better access to the subject and this gift. It is our concern to bring about more respect for those affected for themselves and for other people when dealing with them, and in the end we want to make life easier for all together.

What is high sensibility?

First of all, let us turn to the question of what high sensitivity actually is. Between 10 and 20% of the population are affected. Accordingly, it is important to understand the term itself as a first basis before continuing to deal with the subject.

What does high sensitivity mean?

High sensitivity describes a condition that humans can possess as a special characteristic. These people are far more sensitive than other people. Biologically, they have a nervous system which reacts to stimuli much more sensitively than is the case with the nervous systems of the average human being.

Being much more sensitive means that you perceive stimuli much more strongly. It does not matter whether the stimulus comes from the person or from outside. However, it is important that even weak influences are perceived as strong and that strong influences are even able to over-excite the nervous system of the affected person.

A highly sensitive person is able to perceive very subtle changes in his environment, in his body or in another person. These changes can be so subtle that an average person would simply overlook them. What is considered a small stimulus for the average person is already a big stimulus for a highly sensitive person. Anything beyond that becomes almost unbearable.

How does high sensitivity work?

The sensation of even the smallest stimuli and the very strong sensation of changes otherwise perceived as normal create a very high sensitivity in the person affected. This means that where another person can still ignore the changes, they are transferred to the person affected and force a reaction. This, in turn, is perceived as an overreaction by those not affected. This results in a lack of understanding for the highly sensitive person, which he perceives in any case due to his increased sensitivity and then impresses him much more strongly.

However, people do not simply perceive the stimuli more strongly in themselves. They also perceive it more comprehensively. This appears as if they can see more colours in a picture than an average person can. So they can not only see more in their environment, but also perceive more of every change than other people.

This "more" of perception also leads to the fact that they can recognize more nuances. Thus a highly sensitive person can perceive much finer mood swings in his counterpart. These are transmitted through the voice or color variations on the skin or simply through different gestures and facial expressions. What a person can hide from another average person, for example a lie or a favour or displeasure, a highly sensitive person looks at his counterpart and truly looks at it written on his forehead.

Highly sensitive people, like all other people, have 5 senses. Not everyone is always affected to the same extent by the high sensitivity. So it can be that a highly sensitive person can see more or feel more or simply hear more than another person. Several senses can be affected and the sensitivity of each of the senses can be differently pronounced.

Due to their different sensitivity, the people concerned react differently to their environment. So it can quickly be too bright for those whose vision is more pronounced. For those who can hear better, it soon becomes too loud. However, they all have one thing in common. Due to their increased perception, they see much more clearly what people feel in their surroundings. These feelings are transmitted to her. They particularly affect negative emotions. So they can feel happy because, for example, they just had a good experience. On the way to their friend, however, they see a person who is not well, who is sad or angry, and whose negative feeling is transmitted to them and they lose their good mood.

It is also possible that the permanent perception of the mood in the people around them over-excites them. When this state is reached, they resist further perceptions by closing themselves off or reacting rejectively to their surroundings.

The Gift

Being highly sensitive is a gift, but you have to learn to deal with it. The increased sensitivity allows those affected to perceive many more things and processes in their environment, but this also means that they perceive things and processes that do not actually affect them and burden them. That is why it is very important for a highly sensitive person to gain a certain amount of control over his or her own life in order to be able to deal with the stimuli that constantly and strongly flood in him or her.

Just as high sensitivity gives the person concerned more opportunities, so must he or she bear more responsibility. The responsibility refers to himself. As a highly sensitive person, you must protect yourself and promote your own personality so that you are not constantly overwhelmed by your surroundings.

The first and most important thing in one's life is to furnish oneself in a way that corresponds to oneself. This means, for example, that those who are much stronger in their perception of noise must do everything possible to avoid noise. Such a person cannot live on a main street or near a party mile.

Since all highly sensitive people also perceive the people in their environment much more strongly, they have to make sure that they have less contact with other people and that they allow themselves time out. That means a job in an open-plan office is off-limits. Even professions that involve an increased interaction with other people, for example as salespeople or as teachers, are not a good choice. It is important to limit the stimuli you get from other people by doing less with people.

Time-outs are again very important, especially if you live in a relationship as an affected person. You just need a certain amount of time without the constant sensory overload. You only have that time when you're alone in a room. While basically every human being has the need to be alone from time to time, this is even more true for a highly sensitive person.

Furthermore, as a highly sensitive person you should avoid crowds. So parties are not always a good idea and shopping at rush hour is not a good decision. While one should not necessarily become lonely, one should also not overtax oneself by constantly having many people around.

If one has internalized these limitations for one's own good, then one can recognize the good side, the gift. Then you have an empowerment that you can consciously use. So one can recognize with it rather whether the opposite lies to one. This is very good in a partnership or in a business conversation. One can experience social interaction much more strongly in general, qualitatively than quantitatively. So you can also see when your own friend or partner needs help because he has grief. So you can avoid colleagues who are in a bad mood today. There are many small opportunities where the ability to better perceive the minds of others is an advantage.

The advantages of high sensitivity

Many people live in a constant state of uncertainty. They are unsure whether their partner is betraying them, whether the boss is thinking in his mind about dismissing them or whether their friends are just taking advantage of them. Someone who is highly sensitive can escape this uncertainty, this uncertainty, because of his much better feeling for his fellow human beings. He can sense whether he's liked or disliked. He can see whether the boss is satisfied with his own performance or would rather hire someone else.

Not only are highly sensitive people less frustrated in their social interaction when they use their gifts, they also have a better perception of aesthetics. They can thus become better connoisseurs of the arts, enjoy more music or paintings, and put their experiences into practice by becoming writers themselves.

The most important thing for a highly sensitive person is to understand two things and to unite them. The first thing you have to do in this situation is to recognize and understand that you are different. Next, you have to realize that this difference does not mean that you are worse. You simply have others and above all more chances than the other people. You have to be aware of this and you can build on it your self-confidence and the feeling of your own value.

Self-reflection

The high sensitivity creates another responsibility and possibility. First of all, a highly sensitive person must reflect himself, his gift and his experiences much more strongly than other people, and he can do this because of his gift.

The responsibility lies in using self-reflection. Here it is important to prevent slipping again and again. As a highly gifted person, you are different from the others, and you are also rejected because you are different. However, this should never tempt an affected person to perceive themselves as inferior or bad. To be different is to have different needs and to make sure that you meet those needs. But it doesn't mean being any less good than your fellow men.

The possibility is that one can learn more from and about oneself through self-reflection. In this way one can get to know oneself and one's wishes better and then work towards their realisation. You can analyze every step you've taken. What was successful can then be used as a new tactic for the future. What wasn't so successful, you improve. Such self-reflection becomes the starting point for achieving one's own goals and happiness in life.

This is also where the responsibility resumes. Everyone can only be happy if his needs are met. Highly sensitive people have the opportunity to fathom their needs through self-reflection and then work towards their satisfaction in order to achieve their own personal happiness.

Recognizing High Sensitivity

In any case, it is important to recognize by yourself whether you are highly sensitive. You can also observe the other people around you to see if they have this quality.

Highly sensitive people, no matter whether they are themselves or someone else, can be identified by certain characteristics or actions. So they are easily overwhelmed by many people. That means they try to keep a little apart from many other people. At the same time they have a different sensitivity in their senses. They will try not to move around in overly brightly lit areas or reduce lighting, and they will be sensitive to noise. If, for example, you have a colleague who is not so talkative, likes to sit in a darker office and values silence, then he is very likely highly sensitive.

Unfortunately, highly sensitive people are at the mercy of their gifts. They cannot simply ignore or hide the influences that irritate them. That means no one can really hide their high sensibility. They are simply forced to pay attention to a quieter environment with less light and less social interaction.

If you have recognized someone as highly sensitive, it is important to treat them with respect. One should not expect such a person to be over-stimulated by loud noises, bright light, too strong emotions or too many people.

Special features of high sensitivity

High sensitivity brings with it many peculiarities for those affected. They therefore need a lot of understanding. They do not simply perceive things much more strongly. They don't just hear and see better. Their increased perception means they see more than others. That's why they have a lot more things to think about. They are also much more susceptible to emotions. They cry more, laugh more and can especially feel what other people around them feel.

For a highly sensitive person, life has two extremes in store, and it is the person himself who chooses between them. The first extreme is total sensory overload. This happens constantly, everywhere and at any time. As an affected person, one cannot defend