The cunnilingus of your dreams

Well, how can it be without a definition?

In fact, cunnilingus is a sexual practice that can bring a partner to orgasm with only oral stimulation of the external genitals, without direct penetration. By the way, you'll be surprised, but for some girls, clitoral caresses are the only way to achieve sexual release. But even those who prefer a vaginal orgasm, will not refuse a good cunnilingus.

According to the medical scientific and practical portal Lvrach.ru:

25% of women experience orgasm only from vaginal sex.

40% of women do not enjoy vaginal contact alone.

How to raise the percentage of intimate pleasure to the favorite lady?

This is where cunnilingus comes to the rescue

Already 80% of women get orgasm from it.

Oral sex has long occupied a fundamental niche in sexual relations between men and women, because good sex is preceded by good foreplay. And skillful use of skills in the field of oral sex will fill with pleasure and excite not only the partner, but also you. The main thing – track her reactions and emotions, and try to feel and correctly recognize her body language, which is almost disinclined to pretenses. This way, you and she can not only diversify your relationship, but also get even closer.

Since the clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones for most women, stimulating it with your mouth or hand can lead to orgasm even without penis penetration into the vagina.

In addition, cunnilingus allows you to reach orgasm even after intercourse, if the woman for some reason did not get satisfaction or set up for a second orgasm (for example, if you managed before her).

For many women, cunnilingus is as pleasurable as a blowjob is for men. In addition to physical pleasure, the psychological component is also important – it is an indicator that the partner is ready to satisfy his beloved and fulfill her desires.

In addition, you will henceforth be bound by a certain secret, which also creates an additional spice to the relationship. Yes, and you cunnilingus can also give you new sensations, because this is the only way you can tactilely feel the orgasm of a woman with your lips, which, believe me, is worth a lot.

As in other areas of life, there is a disparity between the sexes in cunnilingus. In 2016, a study was conducted among teenagers in the UK on the topic of oral gratification of a woman. Researchers organized a single interview with them in order to find out how the younger generation feels about oral sex. It turned out that most of the interviewed teenagers, regardless of gender, considered female genitals unpleasant and unattractive. The study participants noted that doing cunnilingus is “almost a grandiose event,” while giving a blowjob is something cool that is not ashamed to admit to society.

Researchers have already encountered similar differences in past studies. Recently, the University of Toronto conducted a survey among students and found that in the case of oral sex, women are not only less likely to be in the receiving role, but also experience less pleasure from cunnilingus than men from blowjobs.

Still, there is a difference between simply not enjoying oral sex and not enjoying it because of shame about their bodies. The fact that teenagers in the UK labeled vulvas as “disgusting” is indicative of cultural stereotypes about women's bodies. Many women, even as adults, try not to look at their vulvas: their appearance is embarrassing and sometimes disgusting. This approach, of course, leads to problems with intimate health and quality of sexual life.

According to many resources on the web, including the sites “Science. Art. Greatness”, ‘Sexhelper’, ‘Erogen’ and others, studies by sexologists have revealed that in the USA about 54% of men prefer to use cunnilingus during foreplay. Surveys conducted in other countries, say that even there many women prefer oral caresses along with other types of stimulation. The practice of cunnilingus in preliminary and final acts, as well as in case of erection problems, can be considered normal sexual behavior, provided that it fits within the framework of mutual consent and satisfies both the man and the woman.

During cunnilingus, men experience no less excitement, enjoy the caress of the partner and fully accept all the manifestations that accompany this process, just like women during blowjob In addition to this, they realize that the clitoris is the most sensitive area on a woman's body, so there is no more effective way to satisfy the beloved than to directly please him with the tongue.

The demand for clitoral spot stimulation is also due to the fact that it is usually more difficult for a woman to experience orgasm than a man.

First, as a rule, the female orgasm comes later than the male. And, if the man “coped” before the partner, she may lose the cherished pleasure altogether. Secondly, many sexologists believe that without stimulation of the clitoris orgasm does not occur at all, and in most positions of vaginal sex clitoris is either weakly involved, or not involved at all ....

Thus, oral caresses are almost guaranteed way to bring the partner orgasm or at least bring it closer, if further planned vaginal intercourse. Sometimes a woman has the opportunity to experience not one, but two or three orgasms in a row. And what can be more pleasant when you come to the “finish” at the same time?

Cunnilingus is unfairly considered one of the most difficult sexual performances. This stereotype probably stems from the notion of the “complexity” and “mystery” of female organs.

However, the main reason for this reputation is not because women are somehow unimaginably arranged, but because of a basic lack of proper education, which you will get in full by reading this book to the end.

What is it that makes cunnilingus so attractive when examined in more detail?

Why do women like it?

Aside from the fact that for many, cunnilingus is the only way to experience orgasm, the process has other reasons for regular inclusion in one's sex life.

One of the primary ones is the tremendous benefits to women's health. Good cunnilingus promotes the production of many important hormones such as prolactin, which is responsible for breast firming, oxytocin, which ensures the elasticity of the uterine muscles, and endorphin, which is known as the happiness hormone.

In addition, oral caresses of the intimate area differ significantly from the usual kissing and directly sex. Only the tongue can so stimulate the tender and erogenous zones that the wave of excitement rapidly passes into a stage when the girl almost can not control herself. Many sensations are similar to vacuum clitoral stimulators, but even those, sometimes, lose to a truly skillful man.

It is worth noting that the clitoris has more than 8000 nerve endings: twice as many as the male reproductive organ. This explains why it is so sensitive to caresses and gentle touches. And that's exactly why its proper stimulation allows you to experience incomparable bliss, and wrong brings discomfort and even pain. And around it, in the area of the labia and even in the skin groin folds concentrated a lot of nerves, these places are extremely sensitive and are responsible for the excitement of the girl. All the space of sensitive nerves and provides that hurricane of sensations, with which can hardly pull vaginal orgasm.

All this allows a woman to experience more intense pleasure than can give just sex. Moreover, the man together with her feels this moment with lips and tongue – the muscles of the vagina begin to contract, which can not go unnoticed – which adds a special piquancy sensations.

But with women it is clear. What do you men get out of it?

Why do men like it?

No matter what men say, but many online resources claim that 67% of 100% prefer to give girls pleasure exactly with the help of oral caresses. And they can be understood! It is an incomparable pleasure – to see how a woman wriggles and moans thanks to your efforts and skills, reaching orgasm. In such moments, a man feels like a full-fledged male, able to fully satisfy his woman. And, if you consider that with just oral caresses alone you can bring her to several orgasms per night, it becomes incomprehensible – why many men are still strangers to cunnilingus.

In addition, oral caresses of the clitoris and the area around it cause an abundant release of lubricant, which guarantees a pleasant and intense sexual intercourse afterwards.

Research conducted by men's magazines, sexologists and family psychologists has identified nine main reasons why men experience a love of oral sex. Nine! Just imagine.

1. The pleasure lasts longer.

Sex usually lasts only a few minutes, and if the man manages to “get his,” the woman may not: as you remember, it takes her longer to climax. Therefore, cunnilingus, which is a form of preliminary caresses, properly warms up the lady and already prepared brings her directly to coitus with orgasm at the end. Also such foreplay increases the likelihood of simultaneous achievement of the cherished.

2. Multiple orgasms.

The pleasure of meeting with you can turn out for her not only the expected vaginal, but also clitoral orgasm, and that too can be more than one. Several orgasms in one meeting – what is not an indicator of male perfection? That certainly motivates many men to include cunnilingus in the mandatory program of her pleasure.

3. A head massage in the process.

Of course, it is gratifying to see and feel how she wriggles and languidly moans from your manipulations. However, when she at the same time, in a burst of passion, and runs her fingers in your hair – it can physically please any man. Because the scalp is dotted with an unimaginable number of nerve endings and their massaging is able to pleasantly excite you along with sexual sensations. And, if in normal life, men are not so willing to respond to the proposal to massage the head, considering it something unseemly, but during cunnilingus female fingers in the hair – quite understandable and even a legitimate presence.

4. Cognition of the female body.

When orally satisfying your beloved, you have a great opportunity not only to monitor her reactions, but also to fully explore her beautiful body – you are free to dispose of your hands as you wish. Hips, breasts, ass – touch, caress, study, with the right approach, it will only increase her excitement, and you can get enough to adjust the tenderness of her skin, all the hollows and bulges. Well pure buzz, right?

5. Review of the most intimate.

The female body has always excited men's minds. The naked body drove crazy… and now you have a view of the most intimate, the most secret, the most-self that she herself does not often see. And this trust, this sacredness of what is happening, this splendor of what is seen – can bring your arousal to the peak of aesthetic pleasure. So, the least you can do for her as a token of gratitude is to please her with a good cunnilingus. The key word being good.

6. This is fun.

The transition to cunnilingus doesn't always happen in total silence in an impenetrably dark room. Often it's more like the beginning of a game – you kind of get up to her, she smiles, you try to get lower, she's both excited and giddy, which she sometimes tries to cover up with careless cheerfulness. In general, before she can't talk anymore about the intercepted excitement, you'll exchange both smiles and remarks and other emotions of a very pleasant nature.

7. Focusing on what's important.

During sex, you are both interested in not just having a good time, but also to experience orgasms – preferably each. And even better – at the same time. Therefore, cunnilingus, as foreplay, allows a man to fully feel all the spice of what is happening, to focus on the girl to relax her, set her up for the right mood and do everything right so that she gets pleasure in any case. Being respectful and attentive to her needs allows a man to better focus on the girl not as a sexual object, but as a person.

8. You're getting closer.

Cunnilingus is the least likely thing to be done to a woman you don't know well or one with whom the connection is superficial, unpromising. Not at all! A man only turns to oral caresses when the girl is really interesting, important and close to him. And the partner is perfectly aware of this. That is why during cunnilingus a special, unlike anything else, intimate and trusting connection is formed between two people.

9. There is a possibility of “repayment”.

Few men are able to refuse a blowjob to a girl who really likes him. Because a good blowjob – it's beautiful! This is also the case with cunnilingus – giving a girl oral pleasure, a man subconsciously, and maybe not, expects that he will someday please in a similar way. And it is worth noting that such expectations are rarely in vain. The principle is simple and clear: good cunnilingus = good blowjob.

However, despite the fact that in most cases cunnilingus likes both sides of the process, quite often cunnies are refused, both men and women.

Why is that?

Obstacles to cunnilingus

Many people feel the most real discomfort at the suggestion of cunnilingus: morally or physically, due to upbringing, religious or other views. Historically, oral sex, including cunnilingus, has been condemned by different cultures and religions. For centuries, the idea that it was unnatural and contrary to divine laws was preached. It was believed that sexual contact through the mouth was not part of the reproductive act, but an extremely perverted activity.

Why do women refuse?

Statistically, cunnilingus is refused more often by women than by men, to the complete incomprehension of those of the latter who enthusiastically accept oral caresses. Therefore, scientists conducted surveys of thousands of ladies to clarify the reasons for the disappointing results. The picture turned out to be as follows. For a holistic understanding, data from other sources is also attached here.

One of the main reasons why women refuse such oral caresses is due to their psychological attitudes and barriers that do not allow them to fully relax and trust their partner. This may be due to upbringing, religion, modesty, or other personal problems. Many women have the attitude that the genitals are something inadmissible for such close contact, such as cunnilingus, and therefore such sexual manifestations can drive her into a frank stupor. It is necessary to talk, to develop trust and a different angle of perception of such a delicate topic.

The second reason – the fear of appearing before his man in such a frank form, although the woman will willingly give you a blowjob. Here we all need to somehow convey that the labia can look different, as well as the whole body. It's just a peculiarity of human structure, that's all it is. There is no “right” and “wrong” about exactly how the genitals look (unless we're talking about a disease, of course).

The third reason is the fear that their genitals aren't clean and foul smelling enough for this manipulation right now.

The usual shower before caressing easily solves this problem. And in general, Mother Nature has ordered so that the aroma of her vagina excites your sense of smell in the most pleasant way, creating and increasing arousal, inviting to mating. If this effect is absent, something is going wrong. The snag could be as much about her as it is about you.

If your partner not only maintains hygiene but also regularly visits a gynecologist to check for infections, then the problem is in you. More specifically, your perception of that particular girl. It is very likely that you simply do not love her enough, as the scent of the beloved cannot leave a man indifferent. Physical rejection of her odor is a signal that soon you will begin to irritate and other little things, like her remarks, driving style, clothes and so on. There's reason to wonder.

Female intimate odor is not a nasty odor. A vagina smells like a healthy vagina. This is normal and natural.

The fourth reason is, unfortunately, your complete profanity about oral caresses. Once convinced that you do not know much about it, a woman will rarely agree to give it another chance. Unless you come to her with this book.

And that's totally fair! Okay, if you were just trying to please there and did everything tender and caring, but for some reason you didn't bring her to orgasm… that's okay, there may still be more than one chance, she'll just see it as part of the petting. It's much worse if you persist in trying to bring her to orgasm without any idea how things work. Roughly rubbing the clitoris, scratching with nails and stubble, climbing in there with dirty hands, panting, drooling on the bed, etc. Then it turns into the torture of the Inquisition with the only desire to end it all as soon as possible and not do it again. Ever again.

Or you, again due to ignorance, tried there for a couple minutes and that's it, it's done, it's time to move on to your own needs… and she needs more. Why then was it even to start, tease… solid disappointment and, as a consequence, unpleasant experience.

The fifth reason is you're hoping for a “comeback.” If you're reading this standing up, take a seat – many women refuse cunnilingus so that they have the legal right to not give you a blowjob. She doesn't want it, she doesn't like it. A blow job is so unexciting and unmotivating to them that they are readily willing to give it up at the expense of their own pleasure. Now live with it.

By the way, I have an awesome book on the subject, “Fantastic blowjob from A to Z”. After her no blowjob is not terrible.

All of the above reasons for refusal are solved by the usual frank conversation – and teach you can, and wash her before cunnilingus and, over time, learn to fully trust you and relax. And blowjob is cool, if you do it right.

Lovely young ladies, it's high time to realize and accept the fact that if your lover wasn't interested in satisfying you with oral sex, he or she simply wouldn't do it. Cunnilingus is something that is completely natural and is not in any way obscene or embarrassing. It is just one way of foreplay or an exciting aftertaste. Just like you, your partner may enjoy it, he may actually enjoy it – it is his way of expressing his exclusive affection for you. In addition, it makes him feel good to know that his skills are guaranteed to bring you to orgasm. This scenario is quite realistic!

Remember, my lovelies, that you have every right to enjoy yourself. Just do not interfere with him, let him do everything really well, do not refuse such an offer. At this moment you are sharing your own intimate zone, where each of you receives and gives pleasure.

Why don't men want to?

– A real man will never allow himself to lick something there – so confidently and proudly can declare every third representative of the stronger sex.

Many women regretfully have to agree that their favorite is against cunnilingus. Why? Maybe he has a really good reason for it! Such, of course, there are, but they are not always valid …

Men don't grovel.

Many representatives of the older generation are not particularly interested in oral caresses of female genitals, considering it completely humiliating and unacceptable. While young men, more progressive and educated, on the contrary, try to please their partners in all sexual aspects.

However, despite this, there are still quite a few men who do not welcome such intimate acts. They gather in companies, discuss men's issues and at any mention of cunnilingus they cringe in disgust, saying that they do not do such things. In fact, most of them are still ready and regularly pamper their partner with oral caresses if they want to give her pleasure. And only because of the accepted views and beliefs among “their own”, they never admit it.

Established stereotypes that oral caresses are something degrading, are generated by disputable ideas about true masculinity. Men, according to their ideas, do not cry, do not smile, do not love and do not feel emotions, do not show interest in a woman … But only one weakness they still have – weakness before the opposite sex, with whom they easily copulate, not neglecting and oral caresses, if necessary. It's just a secret.

Was – did not like it!

Categorical refusal of cunnilingus can be due to bad experiences in the past. Maybe once a man has tried to surprise/please his beloved with the delights of oral sex, but whether from lack of knowledge, or from lack of proper practice could not bring her to the highest bliss, causing frank disappointment on the part of the one.

And for a representative of the stronger sex there is nothing harder than to endure doubts or even direct dissatisfaction in the sexual sphere. Instead of tightening the theoretical basis, it is easier for a man to exclude cunnilingus from his sexual “diet”. Thank God you're not like that and read every line thoughtfully.

Uhm… where is this going?