Beyond Fear

DOROTHY ROWE

Beyond Fear

20th Anniversary Edition

To my dear friends Helen, Galen, Marc and Naomi

Cover

Title Page

Dedication

Introduction

Fear and the Fear of Fear

1 The Nature of Fear

• Fight or Flight

• Unavoidable Conflicts

• Fear of Life and Death

• Fear of Not Being Good Enough

2 Understanding the Nature of Fear

• Brains and Minds

• Our Greatest Fear

• A Choice of Defences

3 Fear Denied

• Denying Fear as ‘Character’

• Denying Other People’s Pain

4 Learning How to Deny

• The Perils of Childhood

• The Perils of Sexuality

• Denying Who You Are

5 How Society Responds to Mental Distress

• What Has Stayed the Same?

• What Has Changed, and for the Better?

The Alternatives

6 Choosing a Defence

• Popular but Confusing Diagnoses

• Choosing a Desperate Defence

7 A Bodily Solution?

• Not Frightened, Just Ill

• From Fear to Illness

• Punishing the Body to Ease the Mind

8 Turning Fear into Depression

• The Story of Depression

• Public Discourse - Muddle and Confusion

• Do Pills Cure Depression?

• The Way Out of the Prison

9 Turning Fear into Anxiety, Panic and Phobias

• Panic and the Fear of Panic

• Relinquishing Panic, Phobias and Fear

10 Turning Fear into Mania

• The Manic Defence

• Finding Yourself

11 Turning Fear into Obsessions and Compulsions

• Doubt, Hate and the Denial of Feeling

• Gaining Freedom

12 Turning Fear into Schizophrenia

• An Idea Called Schizophrenia

• Are Drugs the Answer?

• Hearing Voices

• The Road to Recovery

13 Turning Fear into Courage

Notes

Books and Websites

Index

Acknowledgements

Copyright

About the Publisher

Introduction

Ideas about mental health and mental illness have changed over the last twenty years. Some old ideas like ‘chemical imbalance’ and ‘a gene for this and a gene for that’ linger on despite the fact that research has shown that these ideas are not hypotheses but myths. There is now a general acceptance of the idea that mental distress can be relieved by talking to a listener who has no vested interest in the situation which gave rise to the distress. The media take this idea for granted, but many members of the media fail to grasp what the talking therapies are, and speak of counselling as being a kind of unguent which is poured over some unfortunate person, as in ‘the victims were counselled’. No one would willingly talk to the media about being psychotic because the media, and many members of the public, still regard anyone diagnosed as schizophrenic as being a potential axe murderer. Yet prominent figures now speak openly of their depression, and pop stars seem to regard as obligatory a drug habit followed by a period in a fashionable psychiatric clinic. Politicians speak most sympathetically about the necessity for good mental health care, though the money for such a service rarely follows through. But, in all, when it comes to mental illness, everyone’s heart is in the right place.

Or is it? Despite all the changes for the better, the notion that madness is some strange thing that can fall upon an unwitting individual at any time is as strongly held as ever. The language in which we talk about madness might have changed, but the belief in that strange, wilful, sinister, mysterious force is still in the minds of most people, including the minds of those who ought to know better. To be seen to be mad is still regarded as being alien, no longer a full member of the human race. The Royal College of Psychiatrists and MIND, the National Association for Mental Health, have run a campaign aimed at removing the stigma of madness, or, in current terminology, ‘having a mental health problem’, while some sections of the media have a stylebook setting out what language may or may not be used (the Guardian stylebook bans ‘offensive and unacceptable terms such as “loony, nutter, psycho and schizo”’). However, little seems to have changed in private attitudes. Despite the courageous work by members of the user/survivor movement, the term ‘mental health problem’ is taking on all the negative connotations of ‘mentally ill’. Writing about the report issued by the National Institute for Clinical Excellence (NICE) following their study ‘Mental Health and the National Press’,1 the journalist Lynne Eaton summed up NICE’s results with, ‘Some of the reports about people suffering mental illness, particularly news stories, contain a level of discrimination that would be deemed unacceptable for most other social groups (except, perhaps, Gypsies and asylum seekers).’2

In their report, NICE recommended that mental health professionals be prepared to inform the press about mental health issues. However, the language used by the majority of mental health professionals is itself suspect. In 1987, when the first edition of Beyond Fear was published, psychiatrists spoke of mental illness. In the intervening years the word ‘illness’ has disappeared from the diagnoses used by psychiatrists, though not from their general discourse, to be replaced by the word ‘disorder’. When I first came to England in 1968 and worked in psychiatric hospitals there were only five basic mental illnesses, namely, schizophrenia, manic-depression, anxiety and phobias, obsessions and compulsions, and depression. The behaviours associated with these diagnoses are very distinctive and found in all societies and throughout recorded history. Many of the psychiatrists I worked with had their own idiosyncratic diagnoses for people who could not be fitted into any of these categories. At Middlewood Hospital (a Sheffield psychiatric hospital now mercifully closed) a favourite diagnosis was ‘Irish’. Over the years the idiosyncratic diagnoses of American psychiatrists were pooled and the more popular ones were presented in what is now a vast tome, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM - Revision IV) which covers all the ways we can behave when faced with a very difficult situation. We are all in the DSM, at least once. Psychiatrists have medicalized life, and, in so doing, joined forces with an international business comparable in size, wealth and power with the arms trade and the oil business - the pharmaceutical industry.

Psychiatric ideas of mental illness and mental disorder are based on ‘the oversimplified medical model that forms part of the culture of psychiatry, the “illness-treatment-recovery model”’ which the retired psychiatrist David Whitwell calls ‘naïve psychiatry’. This ‘focuses on short-term improvements in symptoms as a main target for intervention. Although its origins are over fifty years old, and it reflects an outdated concept of what it is to recover from mental illness, it is still very much in evidence.’ In his many years of work in acute psychiatry, David Whitwell came to see that, ‘The claims made by professors of psychopharmacology and the drug companies for their products were never fulfilled in practice. The new clever therapies never seemed to produce the transformations they promised. And as time went on I could see less and less value in the elaborate systems of diagnosis and classification that are so central to psychiatry… I became more aware of the power and effectiveness of the non-specific factors which help people recover.’3

‘Naïve psychiatry’ may still be flourishing but so is naïve psychology. If this psychology were water it wouldn’t wet the soles of your feet. When I read much of the work of my colleagues, whether academic papers in learned journals or self-help books for the general public, I get the feeling that most members of my profession have led extraordinarily sheltered lives, or perhaps in their teens they encountered life in all its crudity and messiness. Recoiling in horror, they comforted themselves with a fantasy of a pleasant, technicolour world where all problems are soluble. To maintain this fantasy into adulthood they had to ignore anything to do with politics. Traditionally, the British Psychological Society (BPS) has viewed politics as distasteful. More recently psychologists in the UK, along with those in the USA and Australia, have come to fear that any interest in the political aspects of their work could threaten their livelihood in a highly competitive market. Such timidity has led to the BPS’s professional journal, The Psychologist, reading like a high-school magazine written by diligent, unquestioning students. Psychologists feel sorry for their clients, but the way most of them talk about their clients, both publicly and privately, reveals that they do not see their clients as fellow adults but as wayward children whom they can teach to live in sensible ways. They present their advice to these children briskly and with authority because they feel it would lessen their standing in their profession and in the eyes of the public to admit to doubt and inadequacy. They seem to have no measure of how naïve they are.

There are those academic psychologists who live in a world of very long words, all of them abstract nouns. To them people are but containers for traits such as ‘sociability’, ‘religiosity’, ‘extraversion’ and ‘introversion’. (In much the same way naïve psychiatrists see people as mere containers for ‘depression’ or ‘schizophrenia’.) Psychologists discover these abstract nouns by giving groups of people questionnaires about what they do. Their answers are reduced to numbers, and these numbers are put through some statistical processes to see how the answers clump together in different groups. These groups are given abstract nouns as names, and these names are regarded as being ‘factors’ or ‘traits’ which explain why people behave as they do. Thus, these psychologists know that you don’t have dinner with your friends because you like to see them but because you have a trait of sociability. They have not noticed that two people can do exactly the same thing but for totally different reasons, and that it is our reasons which impel us into action.

There are those clinical psychologists who aim to replace their client’s ‘dysfunctional cognitions’ with ‘functional cognitions’ which bear a remarkable similarity to their own eminently ‘functional cognitions’. Cognitive behavioural therapists who are in close contact with real life know quite well that there is no set of ideas or beliefs that will invariably lead to us being secure and happy, because all the interpretations we make of what is happening have both good and bad implications. For instance, seeing yourself as being competent has the good implication that you will be able to face new situations with confidence, but the bad implication that, seeing you as competent, people are less likely to help you. Naïve psychologists seem not to understand this. Psychologists who practise positive psychology, the psychology of happiness, advocate, amongst other things, that each day we should count our blessings. Psychologies magazine asked me to take part in a debate on happiness with Professor Christopher Peterson, an American psychologist well known for his work in positive psychology. The features editor of the magazine sent me an unedited copy of what Professor Peterson had written. He concluded his argument with,

Should we eradicate sadness from the world? Yes. This is not to say that we should eradicate challenge and difficulty, not that we could really do that. Challenge and difficulty are the stuff of life: they make innovation and accomplishment possible. But what we should do is to encourage people to respond to setbacks not with despair but with good cheer, hope and perseverance. Happiness makes this possible.

Should we pursue happiness? Yes.

This was written in August 2006 while world governments dithered over what, if anything, they should do to stop the death and destruction in Lebanon following the invasion by the Israeli army. It seems to be very naïve not to understand that there were many Lebanese and Israelis who were suffering the kind of losses which create a sadness that would stay with them till the end of their days. When we lose something which is an essential part of our being, be it a person, a home, a livelihood, or a future, we are left with an empty space inside us that no amount of blessings can ever fill.

Also in August 2006, an Austrian girl, Natascha Kampusch, who had been kidnapped when she was ten by a man, Wolfgang Priklopil, managed to escape after eight years’ captivity in a cellar under Priklopil’s house. This must have been a terrible experience, but worse was to come. According to those psychologists and psychiatrists who are experts on such things, at some point Natascha was struck by a terrible disease, Stockholm syndrome. This disease caused Natascha to sympathize with her captor.

Stockholm syndrome resides nowhere but in the minds of these psychologists and psychiatrists. They believe that diagnosing Natascha as having this illness shows that they are great experts. They also avoid having to explain to the public what happens to us all when we are imprisoned on our own for an indefinite period. We all need contact with other people just as much as we need food. Lacking contact with people, we become unable to distinguish our thoughts and feelings from what is going on around us. This is well known from the accounts of people who have spent long periods in solitary confinement and from sensory deprivation experiments. When we are starving we will take the vilest of nourishment, and, rather than be completely isolated, we will create a relationship with whoever is on offer, no matter how vile that person may be. Hostages like Brian Keenan and John McCarthy, who spent five years in captivity in Lebanon, much of that time on their own, have described this in detail. Psychologists who have studied how a baby forms a bond with a mothering adult have shown how the nature of the bond is very much determined by the way the mother responds to the child. Simply put, when the mother is unfailingly pleasant and kind, the child assumes that the mother will always be available and thus can bear being separated from her; when the mother is unfailingly unpleasant and unkind, the child forms only the slightest of bonds. When the mother alternates between being kind and pleasant and being unkind and unpleasant the child forms an anxious attachment to the mother, a bond which is very strong because, even though the child is frightened of her, he always hopes to be rewarded by her. To survive as a person Natascha had to form a relationship with Priklopil. Because he was sometimes kind and sometimes unkind Natascha became anxiously attached to him, and so she was distressed when she learned that he had killed himself. Placed in a similar situation, we all would have done much the same as Natascha, and none of us, including Natascha, would have been struck by the dreaded Stockholm syndrome.

Diagnoses like this put a security fence between the professional and the person who is suffering. It is the professional who is being kept safe from the horrors and the pain of real life while pretending to be an expert on people. Very little of the theory and practice of psychology and psychiatry relates to real, lived experience. Psychoanalysts have always tried to describe real, lived experience, but their desire to be special and different, as marked by their special language and by the difficulties in acquiring a ticket of entry to their group, has always overridden their desire to give a generally comprehensible account of what it is to live. Much the same can be said of the existential therapists. I have always tried to describe through the stories I tell what it is to be human, but I take things apart, while the great writers, artists and composers encompass life in all its complexity. Denis Noble, in his book The Music of Life, said of his colleagues, ‘Scientists and others tend to be quite fond of neat, clear-cut patterns. Nature is not. Nature is inherently messy… For some scientists reductionism functions as a security blanket. It avoids the need to ask too many questions, to stare into the abyss of uncertainty.’4

For most psychiatrists and psychologists, DSM diagnoses function as a security blanket, saving them from having to confront the messiness of life and its great uncertainties. Diagnoses also allow them to see other people, not as agents, but as puppets. The theories which picture people as puppets are about behaviour being the outcome of the actions of genes, biochemistry, disorders, traits, or the movements of the planets. Such theories are far removed from what we actually do. Neuroscientists have now put beyond doubt the fact that we cannot see reality directly but know only the constructions of our brain which come from our past experience. Developmental psychologists who understand this have applied this knowledge to their studies of babies and toddlers, and have shown that babies are born, not as passive puppets, but as agents, eager to make relationships and to act on their world.

Since no two people ever have the same experience, no two people ever see anything in exactly the same way. What determines our behaviour is not what happens to us but how we interpret what happens to us. In every moment of our life we are engaged in interpreting what is going on. We are, in effect, meaning-creating creatures. This is what it is to be human.

All the meanings we create form a kind of structure, and out of this structure comes our sense of being a person. Because we cannot see reality directly, every interpretation we make is a guess about what is going on. Thus, what we experience as ‘I’, ‘me’, ‘myself’ is a set of guesses about ourselves and our world. Our guesses are also predictions. When we find that our predictions are proving to be reasonably accurate we feel secure. However, the world can often surprise us, not always in pleasant ways, and when this happens some of our ideas fall apart. This is a very common experience. Unless we know that what we are experiencing is a necessary collapse of our ideas, we feel ourselves to be falling apart. If we are full of self-confidence we can say to ourselves, ‘I’ve got through things like this before and I’ll do so again,’ but, if we lack all self-confidence, we feel that our very self is crumbling, shattering, even disappearing. We feel a terror greater than our fear of death. Facing death, we can tell ourselves that some important part of ourselves will continue on, perhaps our soul or spirit, or the memories others have of us. Facing the annihilation of our sense of being a person, we feel that we are about to disappear like a wisp of smoke in the wind. In such terror we can resort to those desperate defences which psychiatrists call mental disorders. They are not illnesses but defences which serve to hold us together when we feel ourselves falling apart. We can relinquish these defences once we come to understand that what is falling apart is not our self but some of our ideas. These ideas must fall apart so we can build new ones that better reflect what is going on in our life. We are not puppets, victims of our genes, traits, or star signs, but agents, interpreting our world, making decisions and acting on our world.

If we do not value and accept ourselves, if we believe that our ideas about ourselves and our world are absolute truths, and if we try to force the world to be what we want it to be, we will be unhappy. If we value and accept ourselves, if we know that everything we know is but a set of ideas which we can choose to change, and that our ability to change the world in the way we want is extremely limited, we will be able to survive the worst that life can throw at us. There is a good chance that sometimes we will be happy.